Let Go of the Shoulds
This meditation will help to cover you in grace, so you can let go of all the shoulds, and rest in the knowledge that you’re doing a great job right now. That you are doing your best…and that is enough.
The intention of today’s meditation is to cover you in grace, so you can let go of all the shoulds, and rest in the knowledge that you’re doing a great job right now. That you are doing your best…and that is enough.
There’s nothing more you need to do.
Nothing more you need to be.
You are doing a great job, Beautiful.
So Let’s Begin…
LET GO OF THE SHOULDS MEDITATION SCRIPT
So let’s begin by closing your eyes and relaxing your body,
Settling yourself into a comfortable position where you feel relaxed and alert.
Find your breath.
Let it bring you inward with its inhale,
And its exhale.
Let yourself be soothed by the rhythm of your body,
Expanding with your breath in,
And contracting with your breath out.
Settle yourself into your body’s rhythm,
Let it calm you.
Let it slow you down.
Let it help you to let go.
Let it bring you here. To this breath. To this moment.
You may have heard it lately.
The noise in your head.
I should be doing more, it says.
I’m not doing enough.
You might be able to wave it away initially.
But the noise persists.
I should be doing this,
I should be doing that.
Just let go.
This noise can leave you feeling guilty, anxious or deeply judgemental about yourself.
The noise gets louder when we compare ourselves to others.
Or when we expect perfection from ourselves.
But if you listen carefully,
You’ll hear something beyond all the noise.
It comes upon you in the most subtle ways.
In the shower.
Just before you fall asleep.
In the loving words from a friend.
It’s your inner voice. Your true voice.
The true YOU.
And your inner voice knows the truth.
So take a deep breath in, let go, and let her words rejuvenate you.
You are doing a great job, Beautiful.
You don’t need to do anything more.
You don’t need to be anything more.
You are enough.
You’re doing your best.
And when there is an opening for more,
I will guide you there with tenderness, excitement and energy…not with the stress and guilt of a hailstorm of shoulds.
You are incredible.
And you’re doing a great job right now.
To let go, bring your attention to your breath and with every breath in, imagine yourself breathing in grace, love and acceptance.
And with every breath out, imagine yourself letting go of the shame, guilt or perfection you may have been holding onto.
Breathe in love,
Breathe out guilt.
Breathe in grace,
Breathe out perfection.
Breathe in acceptance,
Breathe out shame.
You are exactly where you need to be right now. Just let go. You are doing exactly what you need to be doing.
You are doing your best.
Trust your voice.
The Story Behind the Meditation
During the first week of Coronavirus quarantine, I was overwhelmed with the shoulds and the ability to let go.
It got triggered by seeing all the sidewalk chalk mosaics around my neighborhood and all over social media.
I didn’t even think of sidewalk chalk! I should have thought of that!
And immediately, they all came tumbling down upon me.
I should be doing a better job with Sedona’s daily school lessons. I should set up a better play area outside. I should be showing up more on social media. I should be doing more to help people right now. I should reorganize my house so we have more room. I should send care packages to everyone I know. I should workout every day. I should be the best stay at home, homeschool mom ever! I should be using this time to create even more meditations and being more visible!
It was heavy.
And I saw my experience reflected in so many other women.
My sisters. My girlfriends. My colleagues.
We all felt like we weren’t doing enough. Weren’t being enough. Should be doing so much more.
But we were all burnt out just trying to keep our heads above water.
So, I wrote this meditation for you, and for me, and for every other woman I know who is holding so much on her shoulders right now. Doing our best to not just survive, but truly thrive during these times.
So that each of us can be reminded to tell those shoulds to shut up and instead, listen to our inner voice. The one telling us that we’re doing a great job. The one that reminds us how damn strong and resilient we are. The one that whispers for us to “go to sleep” when we want to do just one more thing. The one that says “turn it off” when we look at our social media notifications.
This is for you. I hope it helps.
You’re doing a great job, Beautiful.